When things feel bad it can be hard to not want to fix them …NOW.
But as we all know, changing some of the “big” stuff about ourselves takes time. And often we have to come to a new understanding about those aspects of ourselves that we don’t like so much before we can really let them go.
Sometimes we have to look at why we want to change too. And if the answer is something along the lines of “I hate this part of me,” or “I’m sick of feeling this way,” then we have to stop and look at that (negative) energy before we can move on.
Having a desire to heal because we want to feel healed and whole is totally different than having a desire to heal because we hate feeling bad.
At times, that distinction is a really subtle line.
Usually, when we get to the end of some big process where we’ve spent a lot of time wanting change (because we’re sick of feeling bad), we see this subtle distinction. It’s time …we get it; and we can easily step across to “the other side” and see that a simple shift in perception can anchor in the healing we need. By embracing the positive aspect of the healing we desire, we begin to hold that energy; and we release what has kept us from it.
But other times, when we are so stuck in the need to change to not feel a particular way, it is a huge divide that we then have to cross.
In those moments, the last thing we want to hear is that we need to embrace what we are feeling and choose to heal from the energy we desire versus what we have come to reject about ourselves. Quite honestly, when we aren’t in a place to receive that message, it just creates a bigger divide and more resistance.
So how do we get there in a way that serves us?
This level of healing can of course come as we have finally exhausted all other roads. We finally get to that awareness because we are no longer able to fight it. We surrender to the light within. We see that love heals more easily that our fear.
But we can also get there by creating our own little intervention …by simply asking ourselves how we feel about the part of us we want to change …and why we feel that way. And then, embrace it, love it and begin to work with it.
This is how we consciously working with our energy and what’s going on within. We need to have the ability and the “inner wherewithal” to call in our bigger selves and honestly look around!
It’s a funny thing when we can see both sides of this healing coin: choosing to feel good versus choosing to not feel bad. We actually stop feeding the inner dialogue in a negative way and can shift the energy into what we want to create. And by holding even the thought that there may be a different way to heal — to do so from a place of wanting health, wanting peace and wanting love — we find a whole different energy to begin to work within that transcends that divide.
Here’s to a shifting mindset about the “why” within as you make your own leap across that divide onto solid ground where love heals.
With January under-way, many of us are thinking about the direction of our lives or what we want for ourselves, our families and communities this year.
Energetically we get ahead of ourselves. This takes us out of our right-timing. It takes us out of receiving mode, and typically out of self care. We become energetically fixated and the energy stifles and contracts.
I finally had to ask myself that hard question, “Was I 
