Here’s your “weekend wonderings” thought to hang out with this weekend. And I want to preface this one by saying be gentle with yourself. This is about truth telling, not about self-shaming.
So for those who accept this mission…here’s something to ponder and do a little soul-searching on.
We all have something in our lives that we KNOW we need to change or do something about. And it’s ok. We’re not here to beat ourselves up or force some part of ourselves into doing a complete 180.
But what if…?!
What if we really went ahead and got real and acknowledged to ourselves where we might be out of integrity within our energy and our lives? Those places where we may know that we’re not really giving our time and energy to something, or may be avoiding dealing with something all together.
Ladies, let’s do a little truth telling. No blame, no shame… just the simple honest truth.
Tell yourself your secret. I’m not asking you to post it online…just tell yourself the thing about yourself that you spend time trying to keep others from seeing or knowing. Then spend some time sitting with that, really holding it with some honest introspection and observance.
Now, treat that part of you as your best BFF in the world. And keep your eye out for your inner critic, who wants to come along and shame you and tell you all about how wrong you are. Gently tell that part you aren’t playing along.
But let your secret out on paper. And just like you’d do for your own BFF, “listen” as you write, and really acknowledge what is tumbling out on the page.
What can you learn about yourself when you honestly acknowledge what’s going on? Can you begin to see where you might be able to make some new choices or work on some things to create a new experience? Is there a part of you that can surrender into what has been and drop into what can come to you know that all that tied up energy has softened up and been released some?
When you are done writing, sit with the energy of it all — how you feel in the moment as you have been acknowledging, releasing and being lovingly truthful — and embrace that energy fully. This is the first step to working with this: acknowledging this part of yourself without blame, shame or trying to fix. Just simply be with this part of you and send yourself love. Take as long as you can in this space.
And before you say goodbye, I want you to think about what it would feel like to bring this energy — that part of you that you have been sitting with — into congruence with your highest energy. And ask that part if its willing to create some change.
If yes, you get to think about some steps that you can take to create manageable, positive change.
And if no, that’s OK. Then you get to work with that part to ask what would happen if you did? Then, stay with that process. You can use some of the questions from the Future You exercise or Control and Flow exercise. But stay with where you are and work through the energy.
If you need some help, contact me for some session work. This may be an empowering moment to take a big leap!
It’s freeing to get real, to be honest with ourselves about where we may not be fully owning our stuff. Give it a try. And be kind to yourself as you transform yourself and transform your world!
Think deep, have fun!
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Stacy Vajta is a master energy healer, helping Indigos and other energy-aware folks work with their energy and transform their lives. She's on a mission to help those who feel stuck get to the energetic root of the matter and expand! Visit her Expanded Pathways website.